Being open is so hard. Expressing how you feel and what you want without hurting the other person is for the birds.

What I did is I texted him. I told him what I wanted to try. Sandwich it. For example " like really liked the thing that you did with your hand last night." Then follow with "how would you feel if I bought a ------- and we tried that".

Spice it up. Dont worry about how embarrass it makes you, if it helps then yeah!!!! Look on line at Adam and Eve or some place like that. Look together. Or go to a toy store together. Trust me when I tell you that the other people in there are looking for the same type of spice. And the sales people have tried most of it themselves. Even my husband has found a toy he likes.
( I used to sell After Dark and I did not feel one bit ashamed helping those ladies out. Its a product and I wanted to help them. Even a few friends have asked advise from me every so often.)

This has help a lot in my bedroom. The hard part is trying to get the shyness to go away. Which I get every time but in the end glad I brought it out. You dont even have to have the lights on. Light a few candles. That way its dark but you can still see each other.