Hello, Friskenipper, and welcome to Psych Central! We have many folks at Psych Central who find that their family just does not understand their disorder. If you read in this forum, then you might even find some folks here.

But we understand and are here. Have you talked to your counselor about what is happening at home and how things there are making you worse?

No, you are not being a selfish daughter. You sound like you are doing the best you can. Depression causes us to become less interested in things, and, as you say, sometimes not even able to get out of bed.

Would you be willing for your parents, you, and your counselor to have a session together if your counselor and your parents are willing? Maybe the counselor can explain more about what depression is like and how to help someone who is depressed--and not help them.