Yes, as brainhi says, you are becoming wise in what is going on, obviously working to take responsibility for your issues. Your father's issues are not your issues. Yes there is a mix of nature in there (genetics) as well as nurture (how we're raised) but, in the end, we are not wholly bound by either. I was fortunate to get a large slug of honesty by genetics (a huge number of my ancestors were law enforcement, judges, ministers, etc.) and my stepmother use to unconsciously channel my own great grandfather (no relation to her) with angrily demanding of me "The truth if it kills you!" when I was growing up and trying to avoid unpleasantness. The combination of the two make it difficult for me to see any of the grayness/relativity that surrounds "truth", I have difficulty with all-or-nothing where there rarely is any such thing. I have trouble dissembling even slightly, even for a good purpose.