Hi there,
my sister and I live with my mother and father still together but my mother and father don't speak anymore; things between them are finished. Long time ago I've noticed this, but they were very good in covering that up. They are very religious and the image to the outside world is most important to them. But inside, my father took my sister as a confident, and my mother, who is a little better educated than him, prefers my company. Under the surface, there is a lot of covert anger from the two of them. My father would carefully plan how to hurt me with some hidden message or act, but the main point is to hurt my mother. The same does my mother with my sister. They are fighting through us. They should live separately, better than this kind of anger and rage not openly acknowledged neither displayed.
Is there a label for this kind of dynamic? Is there a place where I can read about this, so I could detect healthy boundaries and protect from this hidden anger?
Thanks