Okay, I feel the need for some clarification/elaboration. And please don't take this in a negative way if you were one of the people who said this. A number of responses indicated that you talk with your therapist about sex-- that sex is a natural, wonderful thing, nothing to be embarrassed about. I completely get what you're saying, but what if that is not the intended content of the sex talk with the therapist? I mean, I'm not going to go into my T's office and tell him, "I had sex with my husband last night. It was great." My content would be more along the lines of, "Between the ages of 18 and 20, I went from man to man, %#@&#! them and then rejecting them just to ensure I wouldn't have an attachment. Oh and by the way, I %#@&#! a married man. Oh, and I fooled around with many guys after only hanging out with them for a short while. OH, and since I have your attention, I'll just add that while my issues led me to being somewhat promiscuous a couple of years ago, now they lead me to having a lot of trouble having sex with my husband, but it's getting a little bit better than it used to be." Do you see what I mean? The content is difficult and unpleasant. It's embarassing because I am often afraid that my therapist will have a negative image of me. He has never done anything to make me believe that of him, but it is of my own insecurity. Sure, sex can be a lovely thing that you shouldn't be embarrassed about-- but when you're talking about how you had sex with married men, and men almost 15 years your senior when you were 20, it's not always the most wonderful, non-humiliating, natural subject to talk about.