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Why does it feel so odd when we walk away from this types of situations? why does it feel like a loss? yes thats it, i feel i've lost a part of myself but I know its so much better this way. I guess it just takes time to adjust????

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Anything we're part of we "invest" some of ourselves into. Doesn't matter if it's good or bad or indifferent, we're "part of" and give a piece of ourselves to it. So, when we withdraw, we usually can't take that piece with us. Someone dies or we change jobs, move house, our team loses a soccer game. . . doesn't matter. Until we can reinvest in something else, that "piece" still pulls to us.

I always use to think that my "ideas" and creativity was limited and that I had to be secretive about my thoughts, dreams, "doings" but I gradually learned to trust myself and to know that as the Doritos commercial says, "We'll make more." I think our connections with others and the "world" are like that, like a switchboard operator we feel cut off when we pull the plug on one thing but then, when we plug the wire into a new relationship, our efforts and "being" has a new focus and we're okay again. It's harder if we want or need to stay in the same environment though or if the disconnect is "sudden" and we don't have enough other interests to switch to or a plan of what to do to reconnect to something else.