I want to go beyond self-esteem, or assertiveness, or self-confidence for a minute. I need to talk about self-concept, literally who do you think you are.

I realize that a lot of the negative assumptions I make and the self-defeating behaviors and anxieties I experience, are due to a negative self-concept. I think "am I the kind of person who <insert ability to get a need met here>", "does <desired kind of event> happen to the kind of person I am?" and all too often the disturbing answer I get from deep inside is "no, sucks to be you". This IS depressing and this DOES generate situational anxiety! I don't fully grasp how to change this, but it's critical to me that I DO change this.

Does anybody have any ideas about how this can be best accomplished? I've tried a few things but I'm still not there yet.