(((Whoaminoone))) I have to agree with jewekz105 if you can do it. As for myself I know where you are at. I understand every word. I would try to talk to your husband again. This time listen to what he has to say. You might find out how hard it is for him to understand where you are coming from. Depression is hard enough for us to understand muck less getting someone else to understand. After he gets done talking it is your turn. You both need to talk not scream at each other. Your husband is your best friend. Also men do need sex, if you can give him a little. With your children take your time. You can take care of them. Idea that might help. Make a list that you can follow for the day. Get children up, feed children breakfast, feed children lunch and so on. My list: get out of bed, take meds, brush teeth, fix lunch, watch Law and order, take meds, watch the news, and so on. If I need to do something else for the day I add it to my list. In my case I have never finished it all. But I add what I didn't finish to the next day.
I really wish you all the luck in the world.