Well, Rhapsody said what I would say on the self-esteem part, so lets get to the sex part...... yea in today's world, men do expect sex. That's kinda the bottom line. Now, although a super-cynic, I am almost certian that you need to either find a guy who is willing to stay sex free until marriage, or realize (like I did) that those morals are a bit out of date, and that although you shouldn't sleep around a lot, that having sex with a guy isn't going to make you a slut, and in todays world, the slogan truely is "just do it." Best of luck to you!