I'm retired and think it is more about other people who work not really having the time and wherewithal to be able to connect with someone who doesn't. Spending 8 hours sleeping and 8 at work, there's only the other 8 to eat, drive to/from and do all the chores associated with working and living at the same time. It is just a different orientation so the few of us who don't work don't "make sense" to them. I had not realized until I got much older (in my 60s) how different it really is being middle aged versus older and how the problems and perspectives change at different stages in life and that phrase we tell children, "you'll understand when you're older" is really true for all the stages. A working 40 or 50 year old can no more truly understand my life than that child can. We see other ways of living but don't really understand them. If someone else comments negatively on your current lifestyle and struggles, feel sorry for their ignorance rather than bad about yourself.