I am sorry they don't appear to "get" your pain. Can I share a story, though? One of my sisters was known for saying those types of things. I really resented her for her coldness. Years later she's getting treatment for serious, serious depression herself. She was probably in denial the whole time, and reacted the way you'd expect a depressed brain in denial to react. Badly. Unhealthily. We get along much better today, but I didn't realize til just last year how mentally I'll my entire family really was. They hurt too, but they denied it. I was just louder in my saying I had depression. They were scared. Maybe your family is too. Either way, I hope you have a good therapist to help you through your darker moments.