I guess the whole issue here is perception. You percieve an inequality with chores and to-do's ...etc. If that is how you feel then it is real to you, so meds might help, but you also seem to know what you want and need for things to get better, which is good. I really think you are on the right track, so keep on going and give the meds a chance and after they are in effect, then reconsider some issues. My hubbie helps with everything in the house and if I need for him to help he is always willing. When I was working 50-60 hrs. a week, very high stress job, we did our own caring for, he did his, and I did mine. The bottom line is, if mama ain't happy then no one is. hang in there pal.