Itsme, did you really do anything all that terrible? You were in a marriage that lacked intimacy and companionship. You struck up a sexless, but emotionally intense, friendship with someone of the opposite sex. Probably because you were unbearably lonely. And now you're beating yourself over the head as if you committed the worst crime in the world and you didn't. You didn't. You sound like someone who's been in an emotionally abusive relationship for so long that you believe you're a terrible person because that's all you've been told ... over and over for years.

Change is really hard. Losing your job and your marriage -- even if it wasn't worth saving -- at the same time is a double-whammy that few people could take without feeling weak in the knees. Add relocating on top of that, plus parenting, and you have a lot on your plate. It's the sort of thing that could throw anyone into a depressed state. If you look up at the top of the page, you'll see a sections called "Quizzes." You might click on that and find one on depression and any others that apply. They only take a few minutes and the questions are not intrusive or hurtful. If you score as depressed or anxious, then therapy and medical help could be important.

Because you're unemployed and a single parent, you may qualify for free or low-cost medical insurance under the Affordable Care Act. Even though it's past the deadline, you can still apply because your circumstances have changed. I know two people who could not afford therapy before who are now receiving counseling and psychiatric care free of charge under the ACA.

You can probably find out how to apply in your state if you google Affordable Care Act and the name of your state.

If you're experiencing depression right now -- and it sounds as if you are -- doing any of that may feel overwhelming. Maybe just start with the depression quiz on this site and then come back and tell us how you scored. That's a start toward getting your life back.