I thought my ex t was having conter-transference. My experience of her was so intense that it felt spiritual to me (an I'm not really a spiritual person). But it turned out that she didn't feel connected to me (or at least she didn't confess feeling connected to me). In fact I found out that she felt just the opposite. She said that she was nauseated by my feelings for her, and had found our sessions almost unbearable. So I guess that is a kind of conter-transference reaction, but not the one I secretly hopped for.

But even if she had feelings for me, I really never wanted anything to happen. I was relived when I had feelings for her, because I had for so long had feelings for teachers, and in college my obsessions with professors were out of control.