I haven't read the entire thread but there's a lot of excellent information in it. I was diagnosed with BPD but I never understood why for a long time. I never cut, I had stable relationships, never acted like the descriptions of the disorder. Yet 4 different kinds of Ts said I met the criteria. They based it on my poor sense of Self and my attachment problems. My current T doesn't label people but I know she agrees with my diagnosis.

My experience in a DBT group was very positive, and not scary at all. Yes, the skills are valuable and can be useful for anyone, I think. We didn't have to say what our diagnosis was, but I know at least one member had bipolar, not BPD.

HazelGirl, if you want to know if you have BPD, by all means ask your T. But even if you do have it, it's not going to change who you are or how your T is treating you.