I feel like I am invited along out of obligation a lot. I am rarely invited but when I am and I go along with a group of people, I am always excluded out of conversations no matter how hard I try to get involved in what is being talked about. Most of the time now I just sit back and be quiet and people don't been notice or care. And sometimes if I am constantly interrupted or treated like I am not there, I will eventually just leave if I am in a location where I am able to leave such as someone else's room or the cafeteria. I feel bad about doing so and makes me feel like a fake person but I feel like sometimes that is the only thing I can do. And they don't seem to care or even notice. That is why I feel like the people I hang around only invite me out of obligation or pity. I feel like no one really cares about me and really don't want me around them. Sometimes when I do get a word in or make a joke, I am interrupted or told to never repeat that joke again but then someone else will repeat that same exact joke a minute later or something similar and everyone starts laughing and everyone listens. It's like they are allowed to talk and joke around but I'm not. That's why I feel like when I just leave, they don't care especially since they never ask where I am going or when and if I am coming back. They may not even say goodbye but if they do it is a quick superficial goodbye and then back to what they were talking about. I feel like I am treated as more of an option since they only talk to me more when it is one-on-one. I have talked to one of the group members about how I feel but their apology was superficial and never even tried to make a change. That only backs up my belief that they don't really like me. Maybe I am overreacting but that is how I feel. What do you guys think? What action should I take next? And this happens to any group I am with, not just one, which makes me feel like there is something wrong with me or they don't like me due to my appearance.
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