I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. I wonder, if it's not too invasive to ask and if it doesn't feel right please don't feel obligated to answer, but I'm also talking through some trauma right now and am having concerns over what to actually say. What is too much, what is essential to know, and what will be beneficial for me to say out loud to another person. I'm sure this will vary depending on the person and situation, but I wonder if you have any advice/insight on this.