Thank you zinco, I appreciate you taking the time to write. I have struggled with the decision for a couple of days and I understand the value in your knowledge and prior experience. I appreciate all the encouragement from the people here.
Preparing myself for her return seems difficult. I ALSO want to discover and learn from others here -the things I can do/or not do so that I am supportive and an asset to continued recovery at home. She (and anyone) who commits to recovery have my utmost respect and admiration. Thank you to all who read and help!