One way to learn (basic) visualization is to sit meditatively before a burning candle. Stare at the flame and calm yourself, your mind and try to clear your mind etc... focus on the flame... once you feel at peace, then close your eyes and work at keeping the flame before you in your mind. That is has light will help you "see" an image... as you do this you will be able to keep the image of the flame longer and longer (with your eyes closed.)

Taking time away from everyday life and learning to come away from it helps to get away from the fray and find what really matters to you. Perhaps you are going into too many different directions to focus any real energy in one? TC