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Old Jun 16, 2014, 08:22 PM
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Originally Posted by itsme45 View Post
Thank you ever so much for your help. It's means a lot to be heard without being judged. I don't think the marriage can be saved. It's begun to get stifling now. There is nothing wrong with my husband but I have come to the point where I cannot stand him...I know I am the cheater and it's a terrible thing to say but I wonder sometimes if he had not treated me with callous indifference I would have done something so uncharacteristic...I am considered quite a prude you know...if people should know my true colours now! I never realised how lonely I was till I met the other man with whom I shared this great rapport for so long...but he too abandoned me...turned his back when I needed him the most...can you give me your point of view as to why he did what he did? There is a very very small opening for a job, I used to be good at what I did but then I may have to start at the mid-level now after giving up my senior position. That's all right. Anything to get this person out of my head and feel a little more worthwhile. Days will pass and it won't hurt so bad but I will never get an answer to why he did this to me knowing very well how much I had invested in the relationship. I have heard since my last post he's got a top job somewhere...ah the bitter ironies of life!!
I don't understand how, in one breathe, there's nothing wrong with your husband, yet in another breathe mention he's treated you with callous indifference and a marriage devoid of intimacy for ten years.
I want to say, to me, the reason you can't get this close, so it would smoke screen, friendship with another man out of your mind, is you haven't come to see the truth of your marriage and the pain this is bringing forth, mirrors the stuffed down deep pains of denying yourself the realization your marriage has sucked you from you.

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