What makes it pathetic?

If it was someone else ... saying they wanted to be in love and to have those feelings of being in love ... would you think they were pathetic?

Is there any way you could fall in love again with your husband? (not talking about other choices but to actually have him as the one you fall in love with)

Is there some way you can have the more mature love you are experiencing now but also retain or hold some of the in love feelings? with your T and with your husband

It doesn't seem so pathetic to me