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Originally Posted by Tongalee
I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. I wonder, if it's not too invasive to ask and if it doesn't feel right please don't feel obligated to answer, but I'm also talking through some trauma right now and am having concerns over what to actually say. What is too much, what is essential to know, and what will be beneficial for me to say out loud to another person. I'm sure this will vary depending on the person and situation, but I wonder if you have any advice/insight on this.
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I agree with HazelGirl that you can say as much as you want and you don't have to worry that something might be too much for your T or might be not necessarily for T to be able to understand you. However, I'd like to add the based on my experience it is not so good to just say everything in one time... I thought that okay, it will be bad when I say something so maybe if I just say everything in one session with the worst details, I'll have it behind me so "the healing" (I'm not the biggest fan of this word) will happen faster... And that was a very big mistake... It did overwhelm my T but more important, it had a terrible impact on me... Thus, I'd recommend saying as much as you want but step by step - see the reaction, wait, say something more - in my case I know if I didn't say too much based on my feelings after the session...