There is no "right" for a counselor to extend boundaries. Rather, there is a balancing envisioned, in which the client's welfare is paramount.

Here is the text of that section:

Has your counselor taken "appropriate professional precautions" such as obtaining your informed consent?

Note also that A.6.c. states If counselors extend boundaries...they must officially document, prior to the interaction (if feasible), the rationale for such an interaction, the potential benefit, and anticipated consequences for the client.

I wonder if your counselor is documenting these boundary extensions in your file.

The American Counseling Association Code of Ethics is here:

http://www.counseling.org/resources/...-of-ethics.pdf