I think the "code of ethics" with an LPC (or LMHC in my state) are looser than they are for other licensed MH workers- even social workers - and I think that is partially because it is the newest license (it's only been around since the 1970's). So I think you'd see Phd's, PsyD's and especially MD's can be a little more rigid with their eithics and boundaries. I think a lot of the guidelines are very vague and for inexperienced Counselors or just more laid back T's, there are lot's of opportunities to really mess up and create unnecessary conflict.

Regardless, I think it is the nature of the client's illness and therapy that would really dictate whether or not something is an ethical violation, so some T's will use that to clarify why they might do something for one patient but isn't willing to do it for another. However, in your case I agree with the other posters that your T has been very contradictory with her behavior and what she says. I do think that you should absolutely bring up any concerns you have with her. As Bill3 said, you are not going to get your T in any kind of trouble by talking to her about this. That would only happen if you took steps beyond that.