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Old Jun 17, 2014, 12:50 PM
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I've had very deep, painful Transference on therapists, but I finally learned how it's supposed to work. The transference needs to be in the therapy; as without it you're just intellectualizing, not making full use of your therapy. When you do become dependent, the T understands all about it, and you work through the issues in your past that went wrong for you, as well as feelings about the T. The transference actually changes your mind's "wiring" , chemical synapses and neurons, in a healing way as you face your fears and angers in the present and the past.
Then, it isn't a matter of "weaning" or traumatic separation at the end. For, if that's how you feel, it isn't the end. You can't believe it for a long time, but your mind grows and your ego gains strength. The "end" comes when you change your feelings about the T, and decide that you would rather do something else with your time and money.

I know it's impossible to believe that, and as long as you feel that way, therapy isn't over. So, don't worry, just stay in therapy. I've been through this so know how it works. Just try to trust your therapist, and the process.
And also, it helps to read up on line about this "Transference" topic.
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Wysteria
Thanks for this!
precaryous, rainbow8, Wysteria