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So much investment is put into it on both sides - but it's meant to be temporary.

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Temporary... ugh... I don't even have the energy to think about therapeutic relationships anymore tonight... I would to think about and answer this question in depth though. All I can say is that connection and distance can very much happen at the same time. Even though I am thinking angry thoughts in regards to my T tonight (based on the end of this evening's session-- see my other post), I can say that there is a deep connection there, but at the same time a great distance because of the one-sidedness. This is especially true in my case, as my T does not self-disclose. So it puts him even more at a distance, he is more a figure to me than a person at times. The distance also lends itself readily to my idealization of him. However, at the same time, I have never felt a connection like this before with a T. I don't think the distance plays a part in that. It depends on the two people involved in the relationship, just like any relationship. I had a T in the past who did self-disclose-- our connection was not like the one I have with my current T. In addition, I don't like self-disclosure and I absolutely don't benefit from it. So yes, I think the connection and the distance can exist at the same time, and I would go as far as to say that they feed off of each other, both in conflict and in benefit.

Once you get me talking, I can't stop...