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Jun 17, 2014, 01:08 PM
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Member Since: May 2011
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Originally Posted by kororain
I don't think she does have unconditional positive regard for me. I think she thinks I'm wrong/bad about a lot of things. I think she thinks I should feel guilty about them, and I don't. It's like she gives me all these opportunities to unburden my soul or something, but I don't feel bad. I just feel like I've done what I had to do in any given circumstance, and I'm sorry if it doesn't fit within cultural norms or whatever, but it is what it is.
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Dear Kororain,
Just my feelings, but I think the last thing I would want from a T is more shame. I have enough of my own. It is not for them to judge me. And shame is the WORST and most INEFFICIENT motivator there is, although many try it. I think you should be validated for doing what you had to do to get through a time when life and emotions were too big to handle. I'm glad you are not sorry for doing what you had to do to survive at the time. I hope sometime you will find a T or someone else that helps you get past it and grow and learn without judgment. Unburdening your soul is not her job..but bringing compassion and helping you to become stronger, forgiving, content, able to form good attachments and make better decisions in the future is.
I'm sorry...guess this just made me angry for you..
Forgive me if I have offended.
WB
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