My heart really goes out to you Birdpumkin. You have been through a tremendous ordeal. You've lost your home plus you have to grieve the loss of your beloved pets. How can your family be so insensitive?

You need support at least from your husband. Can you sit him down and explain that you're having difficulty processing everything, and that your reaction is going to be different then his. Try to get him to understand. I would hate to think you'd have to go through this all alone. Maybe he's really bothered too (how could he not be) and doesn't know how to open up a conversation about it.

My husband doesn't understand squat about what I'm going through, but he knows enough to not call me weird or crazy and invalidate my feelings. That is very insensitive.