The books and articles on therapy explain that the erotic part is really a defense against going into the deep issues of child abuse, abandonment, not being cherished as a child. The sexual is to avoid going further back into childhood where the pain is. Not saying the sexual isn't real, and I'm no expert, but I need to make sense of this too. According to the experts, the erotic feelings don't quiet down until you really get into the sufferings beneath them in your earlier years. The T (supposedly)will be helping you to look into the abuse issues without unduly discouraging the sexual. Supposely the sexual will then resolve itself without direct treatment. Or, so they say.