I started apologising within the last 2 years. I was quickly told not to. That I've never been ashamed of what I do and say and to start now is ridiculous and doesn't look good on me. I was also told that saying "sorry for hurting you" isn't a proper apology.

I really am sorry I hurt others but I'm not sorry for my actions. So if they truly want an apology apologize for hurting them, tell them you didn't mean to and if its something you don't mean say that.

Be honest, that's all you have in life.