shes frustrated bc at first i iodolized her, then we had a huge rupture and i shifted (in a borderline way) into frequent bouts of rage directed at her, as well as consistently (day 1 of two years) insisting that she doesnt care about me and wants me to leave, and that she has shown me 10,000 different ways that she cares and is committed to me DESPITE my accusations, hostility and resistance to treatment, but no matter what she does or how she shows me it JUST DOESNT SINK IN, it doesnt affect me, and that she became a therapist to help people, not to be attacked or "get shot" along the way, bc it doesnt feel good.

yes i agree that she had the boundaries too lose/non existent in the beginning and is now trying to build them retroactively.