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Originally Posted by InRealLife45
shes frustrated bc at first i iodolized her, then we had a huge rupture and i shifted (in a borderline way) into frequent bouts of rage directed at her, as well as consistently (day 1 of two years) insisting that she doesnt care about me and wants me to leave, and that she has shown me 10,000 different ways that she cares and is committed to me DESPITE my accusations, hostility and resistance to treatment, but no matter what she does or how she shows me it JUST DOESNT SINK IN, it doesnt affect me, and that she became a therapist to help people, not to be attacked or "get shot" along the way, bc it doesnt feel good.
yes i agree that she had the boundaries too lose/non existent in the beginning and is now trying to build them retroactively.
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I think it's wrong of your T to blame you for something outside your control and suggest you try someone else. As your T it is her job to meet you where you are, to accept that you may attack her, and to help build trust, not simply demand it. I'm concerned about how much she actually understands borderline tendencies.
I behave like you describe in this post a lot of the time and if my T reacted like this I would be looking for a new one. Because it's not about him, or what he wants. Your T is not required to be happy or feel helpful in your therapy.