You make shrewd observations! If you were writing a description of yourself as you wrote descriptions of your family members, what would you say? Not that you have to answer here, but it might be an interesting exercise to observe your own behaviors in the same sort of style-- especially since the only thing you can change is the way you act/react to these situations

I don't know about all families, but a lot of people find their families difficult to deal with. Even though I like most of my family members, they can get on my nerves, as I get on theirs. I also find that sometimes I am closer to one person than another, but that person may change over time i.e. sometimes I feel closer to one brother, sometimes the other. It sounds like you can see good and bad in all of your family members, with the exception of your father, so you have a good start in getting along!