How long have you been seeing her? It just seems like she might not be a good fit....but if you are attached to her or unable to switch for whatever reason, it might be a good idea to tell her the eft isn't working for you. My T seems to get annoyed/frustrated at times with my lack of attachment/dismissive tendencies. He almost reassures himself as well as me at the same time that I'm just testing him. And that it makes sense I would need to do that. Yeah - I think what's happening there is that he's definitely reassuring himself at the same time lol

I am not usually outwardly aggressive or hostile toward my T but I have my unpleasant part that definitely makes it obvious she's upset. Passive aggressive. Speaking in metaphoric symbolic crap. I've snapped at him. I've told him way in the past that I know I'm difficult and frustrating. I know he must be frustrated with me because I'm frustrated with me. That he's just a T. And Ts are human. Blah blah blah. He hasn't been perfect in response. He cracked once and it didn't go so well. We worked it out though - which is KEY. He apologized. I've apologized and he's semi-accepted (ie i would like to accept your apology, freewilled, but at the same time I think what you said was so important yadda yadda something like that lol).

It just sounds like your T, from what you've written, isn't receptive to the underlying communication of what's going on. Like she wants you to miraculously be non-resistant. I mean, I'm frustrated just thinking about a session with your T and I've not even met her!