Oh dear Maven, personal hygeine is such a difficult issue to bring up with a person. I really feel for your situation.

I used to be married to a man who only showered maybe once a week if I was lucky. When we first started out together he showered more but got progressively worse as he aged. It was a difficult situation.

I used to do things like take a shower at night, come out and say, I got your towels ready for you for your shower. Sometimes he would take the hint and get into the shower, other times not. Or sometimes I would just say nonchalantly, "So, are you popping in the shower anytime soon?" "I'm just planning when I'm going to take mine."

And sometimes I would just have to say to him "hon, you are a little ripe today....showertime do ya think???" That usually worked, but I hated having to be like that. I mean he was an adult for crying out loud *sigh*

The only suggestion I can make is to maybe ask him very lovingly...."hey hon, how about showering together *nudge nudge* *wink* *wink*" LOL....make it a "loving" and "playful" thing. Who knows, he might enjoy it (and you too!) LOL

Good luck Maven....sure hope you can come up with something!

Hugsssssss
J