ive felt too that my T was giving up on me. we've had talks before when i was really stuck in the same patterns that he was worried he wasnt effective for me and maybe i should see a different T. those talks always hurt my feelings cuz i thought it meant he was abandoning me and that i was too sick for him. i most always told him how i interpreted it. but now i realize that he just wants the best for me and for me to succeed in life and he is doing the right thing by wondering if he is effective or not because it wouldnt be right to keep seeing me if i wasnt getting anywhere or making progress. ive messed up a lot of times in the 4 years ive been seeing him and every single one of those times i ask him if he hates me and wants to give up on me and every single time tells me that he does not hate me, that sometimes he gets frustrated but he is not going to abandon me. so i would suggest u bringing up how u interpret these things ur T is suggesting to get kind of a reality check on where she truly is coming from.