good answers all.

I know that black and white thinking is one of those cognitive distortions we all can do without. CBT 101.

I can see many different scenarios, answers, solutions etc for everyone else... though I often post here just one main one... but for myself... hmmmm IDK I do sometimes figure out different ways things can be or end... so that's not black and white is it?

T says I run into difficulty... because my whole life is grey.... I do have needs that can't be met. I am doing my best but it needs more work.

I guess I approach these things from the emotional side at times: what good is doing my best or continuing to try if I still FEEL miserable? How many years do I have to FEEL miserable, even though I KNOW that in however many years more I MIGHT be better at handling these feelings??? Guess that the black and white again.