I think you are asking too much asking someone to respond to you, the way you set it up, that would not be about them and gives them no say, is not a true response. Wanting that is something else; we all want that, to be special and have someone(s) who tries to anticipate our needs but I don't think one can "buy" that.

How hard are you working to not email and operate only in the confines of the actual relationship? You say you have "always needed" this but do you want to be always needing it, not moving on to the real relationship? I wrote my T often and mailed stuff to her office but after 6-7 years I decided I wanted to have a real relationship with her, only in session, person-to-person without my imagination in there running wild and thinking this or that which was not based on anything other than what I wanted, felt, or thought; had no reality to it. It was extremely hard at first, frustrating and painful, but eventually was thoroughly rewarding and worth all that work.