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Originally Posted by peaches100
I guess I should admit too that I have a problem with accepting support in session. I feel unworthy often to ask for what I need, whether it is to do a certain visualization or exercise or ask for a hug when needed. I hate asking for help and feel ashamed, stupid, and childish. So I'm afraid I have this habit of going to session, NOT being able to ask for what I really need, and then leaving session without having gotten what I need, and then feeling needy and wanting the between-session contact. In a very real sense, a part of me is terrified of attachment or emotional closesness. The only way I seem to be able to get it is from that "informal contact" of email.
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I think this is what is going to need to change in order for your "need" for email contact to lessen. You are using email a bit as a crutch to avoid one-on-one communication, and it's become habitual for you. So you've stopped emailing, but you haven't started using your sessions productively either. Double whammy. Time to start using your sessions to communicate properly and I'm willing to bet your "need" for in between contact will lessen. Are you ready to do that? This is hard work, but if you don't put the work in IN session, things aren't going to change outside of session.