Hm. This is sticky.

I agree that doing the trauma work is necessary, eventually, to get past the trigger cycle. I also agree that extra support during trauma work is necessary for a lot of people (it certainly is/was for me).

Do you think you could do the deep trauma work with this therapist? Are you willing and ready to settle in for that work? If so, maybe you could talk to your t and negotiate boundaries for out of session contact for the duration of the trauma work, with an agreement to taper off of out of session contact as the trauma work becomes less intense and overwhelming (and it does, it really does).

If not, maybe a new t is a good plan, this one may have gone as far with you as she can, and a fresh t relationship might help you move into deeper work.

Hugs. I know that time between pressing send and hearing back can feel like millenia.