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Originally Posted by Aloneandafraid
Hi Rainbow. I am just back from seeing my T. I feel exactly as you describe above and I feel so ashamed. I just need to be held by her. What is wrong with me? I'm 46 years old (she is in her 60's). But I just crave her touch (she has never touched me). I managed to tell her today that I was afraid I was going to see her more for just seeing her rather than sorting through my bulimia/marital problems. She was actually really kind and understanding. Said it was okay. She seemed to already know how I felt. Oh god this is so painful. I feel sick.
Thanks Rainbow for this thread. Keep going dear friend. You're doing so very well. Xxx
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Thank you for responding. I wish you and I didn't feel ashamed of our needs. I'm glad you could tell your T what you did! That's progress. I'm especially glad that she was nice about it!
I also feel that I have stayed in therapy so many years because I want to see and be with the T. But that's an issue to work on. Also, as you work on your other issues, your relationship with your T gets worked on too.
Can you talk about wanting touch in general, and then go to what you wish she would do? Even if she won't touch you,talking about that need could be productive. I hope that can tell her now that you told her a little.
There is nothing wrong with you! I don't think you and are alone in craving our T's touch. In fact, I know we're not! We are just desperate to get something we missed earlier
in life. I assume that's the reason though I could be wrong.
I think you will feel a lot better when you tell your T what you want. Is it painful because now she knows how much you need her? She was nice, and understanding. She didn't judge you negatively. Please hold onto that thought if you can.
