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Originally Posted by hankster
We had to give ourselves up over to them. We werent allowed to be ourselves. We were silenced. We werent allowed to speak for ourselves. And maybe thats why talking about it helps.
Like i say, mine is such a trivial example, but the shame ended our friendship and was really never ending.
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I don't think this is trivial at all. It has haunted you your whole life. Because of what your parents did, you had to feel the shame not them, and you're still feeling the shame. Your parents wanted to send a message at your expense with no regard as to how it was going to effect you or your friendship.
Abusive parents are great silencers in so many ways.
The more dirt I tell my T about my family the better I feel and can put things in an adult perspective.