I see it is an extrovert gains comfort from other people and an introvert gains comfort from themselves. I feel I am generally an introvert although in social situations I can put on my extrovert hat. I know what you mean about small talk, Black Magic, but I have a new approach to it. I can use small talk to persuade and manipulate people. Now, wait, I am not trying to sound evil here. What I mean is, by pushing certain buttons in people, you can get a reaction. This can actually be fun.

For example: if you are in sales, you are using specific small talk tactics and skills to close the deal. Some salespeople love doing this. I am starting to approach small talk and conversations with people in this manner and it makes it fun. Like if I match their tone, and smile they will smile back. If I agree with them that makes them happy. Learning these skills makes your life so much easier at work and in social situations. I've been reading stuff about this based on NLP, and it gives me a fun purpose when talking to people now.