This is a tough one…

I've followed many of your past threads and I feel like your bond with your longtime T is very real. It's as if he is suddenly backing down from how important you are too him…maybe he scared himself? I have a hard time believing your T thinks of you in a compartmentalized way. Somehow it is all reminiscent of that Aesop fable, the Fox and the Grapes. (fox desires grapes, is thwarted in his attempts to get them, denies ever wanting them etc.) If you aren't too hurt by his boundary-reinforcing, staying may be feasible .

However, a new T does offer a new perspective. I think it might be impossible to not get attached to someone you are seeing as a T. The old stuff is bound to come up and you may be right back where you were.

Ugh, this probably isn't helping you. Just my observations. And my window is pretty small!