Since she is doing well in her recovery I think it's ok to give the information to her directly....otherwise I would have said that the information should go to her T there directly....as it's definitely something that the T needs to know to help her get the skills to handle it.

I have somewhat of a similar concern......I left my H 7 years ago after a 33 year bad marriage which I still haven't been able to finalize the divorce because of communication issues. After cleaning up the IRS mess he made & just getting that finished, I tried to cash an overpayment check & no bank will deposit it in an account that isn't joint & I found out that our joint account he is running at minus $1600 - $2000 every month accruing overcharge costs on everything.....so I can't even cash the check in the one joint account we have.....well I have been researching about his having asperger's....& it's 100% covers all the issues.....so I am putting together an analysis of the years & sending it to his pdoc (we both had the same pdoc until I moved 2100 miles away) so his pdoc knows me. As long as we aren't requesting them for information about the patient & we are giving them the information only....there is no problem doing that.

In my case, I can't trust my hopefully soon to be ex to take the information to his pdoc.....but in your case, I think it's important to put the trust in your loved one in the first place....then maybe in light passing I would ask if she talked it over with her T......if not, then I might think over the possibility of you giving the information directly to the T after giving her the trust in taking it to her T first.....shows that you feel you can trust her & that's an important part of getting better also.....as it's not easy to gain back trust.