I am going through something that is not too dissimilar to your situation. The person who walked away was emotionally unstable, sociopath, probably having NPD and I was emotionally abused...I am quoting my post here. I got a hearing here in his forum and some good advice...but at the end it is a long lonely journey. I would love to hear from you and share...you can send me a PM if you want... It is all so confusing and hurting for me and I care about what you feel.
QUOTE
I have gone through a very painful break up with my ex. After about three years of togetherness when we were supposed to get together when he just disappeared. Changed jobs and broke contact.I was emotionally abused by him for a long time. I do not wish to contact my ex nor do I wish to start the relationship but I do not seem able to move on. I have plans for the future, yet I cannot stop obsessing about him, visiting his company website and sneaking at him in social media , I keep thinking of the unhappy and frankly disrespectful aspects of this highly volatile relationship and how I allowed him to use and throw me aside. Am I am suffering from a co-dependency syndrome? Any thoughts? The person fits the bill of a narcissist and a sociopath but I think the issue is not him but me. I cannot afford therapy at the moment.