I am quoting my earlier post in another forum. The reason I am posting here is I need your help. I dream of my ex almost every night. And the dream is that I am trying to connect with him but I cannot get through, sometimes because I cannot find his number on my cell or sometimes because I miss him by inches and seconds. while I know why I am having these dreams can you suggest how I may NOT have them...how can I put myself in a frame of mind before sleeping where such dreams will not come? IT IS A BIT LONG. APPRECIATE YOUR TIME
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(I have gone through a very painful break up with my ex. After about three years of togetherness when we were supposed to get together when he just disappeared. Changed jobs and broke contact.I was emotionally abused by him for a long time. I do not wish to contact my ex nor do I wish to start the relationship but I do not seem able to move on. I have plans for the future, yet I cannot stop obsessing about him, visiting his company website and sneaking at him in social media , I keep thinking of the unhappy and frankly disrespectful aspects of this highly volatile relationship and how I allowed him to use and throw me aside. Am I am suffering from a co-dependency syndrome? Any thoughts? The person fits the bill of a narcissist and a sociopath but I think the issue is not him but me. I cannot afford therapy at the moment.)