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Originally Posted by clinpsycstudent
Thanks everyone for their responses and point of view! I think I struggled with it as I felt that I was the "major fault" in not respecting the boundaries (and I completely understand that this was my issue now) but I do feel that she made it very difficult with her still complimenting me, and then the very awkward termination. She was so closed off and seemed to be strugging to try and connect with me... I could feel it. I first determined what I felt were her boundaries were when she gave me her opinion on a relationship (romantic) between a professor and student - and she didn't understand why it was an issue. So I thought that was interesting... and as soon as my feelings developed, initially she guessed I was attracted to her and she said it wasn't an issue... but it soon became an underlying issue when she kept it a secret that she was 'suspecting' that I was reinforced by seeing her... arrrrgh! 
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I tend to push boundaries just like you do so I understand. I know now that doing that can get me in a lot of trouble but I'm not always good at stopping myself, so I now try to make a point of telling Ts that is is tendency I have. I want them to know so that they can stay safe people. One of the most special things about a therapy relationship is the fact that you have the opportunity to be upfront about this kind of self destructive behavior. Wishing you well!