Wow, I have received such amazing, well thought out and considerate responses. Thank you all so much! I have a lot to think about.

I did want to say, Tinyrabbit, that I appreciate your point, but in the context of what I was discussing with him, it sort of made sense that he would say that. I was emphasizing pretty hard about not maintaining an emotional boundary with a new T, so in response to that, he was predicting that intimacy would not be as much of an issue in a new T relationship (I presume he was talking about at least at first).