Slamjammer, that's a very good question. I would prefer not to live in chaos. I have tried to be neater at various points throughout my life, but it never seems to stick. I always have something better to do than putting my projects away or washing the bathroom floor.

If I spend a few hours cleaning, it's certainly presentable, and I do host brunches/dinners a few times a year.

However, even when my place is neater, I still would feel like it was too messy to invite people over. It's two different problems --- my house being too messy to let people in and just feeling like my house is too messy to let people in.

Occasionally it would be nice to invite someone over to see my gardens, but for the most part, I am happy not having people over. I just wondered how many other people were the same way